When I saw this post on our group Confessions, I identified with this woman's problem immediately. Not so much because the exact same thing has happened to me, but because I understand perfectly well what it's like to be the second wife and for the family of your husband to have a hard time accepting you and understanding he's moved on. Our anonymous member says she's sick and tired of her husband's sisters being so obvious about their preference for his former wife. And this even though she's been married to him for 11 years already!

The woman says she won't put up with it anymore and plans to tell her husband they shouldn't go visit them anymore because they always make her feel bad.

And that's obvious from the comments she says her sisters-in-law make in her presence:

My sisters-in-law prefer my husband's ex-wife (even) if she is already with another man and has other children. When I go with my husband to visit them they are always talking about hanging out with my husband's ex-wife and going to her parties. I don't know what's wrong with these people.

To make matters worse, she says that although her husband and his ex have a child together, she kicked him out and the boy lives with them. She says her stepson has no problems with her and doesn't treat her like his aunts do. 

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I think she has the right to say she does not want to go to visit them because it must be incredibly uncomfortable for her. On the other hand, one thing can not be denied: Just because my husband divorced his first wife, I cannot pretend that his family does the same as I'm sure they probably shared a lot with the other woman. What I can say is that this woman's sisters-in-law are being very disrespectful in purpose. 

What would you advise this woman?

And remember to check out our Confesiones forum where you'll always find those topics we all like to talk about as long as we can remain anonymous!

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Roxana A. Soto is a Staff Writer for MamásLatinas. She's a bilingual and bicultural journalist born in Peru and raised in Mexico, Argentina, South Africa and Miami. She's also mom to a first-grader and a preschooler. She loves languages, traveling and good food – especially if it's cooked by someone else.

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If this is so obvious, it is her husbands duty as her partner to stand up to his family and stand up for his wife, if he really loves her. There is no excuse for his family being disrespectful to her in any manner and she has every right to tell him they will no longer visit. And to the sisters inlaw stop being ignorant, it wasnt any of their choice for their brother to leave the other woman or remarry this one, so they need to stop tryin to take matters into their own hands it wasnt any of their business in the first place.
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im so sorry she is going thru such a thing but she shoudlnt have put up with that for so long !!!!!!!!! sure , her sil's preference is annoying and unfair because they kleep running the exwife to the wife's nose evrry chance they get .

id kick them out of my life because while i undrstand that they are her family , she should also realize that she needs to stand up for herself ..... and also , her husband should man up and tell them to respect his wife .

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