Deborah Cruz

I'm Deborah, online I'm  @TruthfulMommy. I'm the creator of The TRUTH about Motherhood. I am a writer, a wife, and a work-at-home Mami who's trying to do it all well. I live in the Midwest with my 2 little girls and my husband. I love them more than I thought was possible and my greatest hope is that I raise them well. I have a lot of degrees from a bunch of schools but mostly spend my days shuttling people under the age of 7, while trying to maintain my sanity. I talk a lot. I may not always say what you want to hear but it will always be my honest viewpoint.

I know I'm Latina when...

my inner monologue is in spanglish.

Deborah's Latest Posts

Truth Be Told: The 5 WORST reasons to have a baby

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There are plenty of reasons to have a baby, the most important being that you want to be a parent and provide a child with food, shelter and never ending unconditional love. It sounds like a big investment because it is. It is the hardest thing you will ever do, but it is also the most rewarding. I know, I've done it twice and I am a better person for having done so.

Some people don't want children and that is fine. Parenting is not for everyone. There is nothing wrong with knowing yourself well enough to know that perpetual self-sacrifice is not for you. Some people like their sleep, money and privacy. I can certainly understand that. Of all the things I've sacrificed, I miss my sleep the most.

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Truth be told: Moms need to remember they were young once too

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In Stuyvesant Town's playgrounds in New York City, young sunbathing co-eds are outraging local soccer moms and, according to parents, offending the delicate sensibilities of their wee little ones. The weather is heating up and girls just want to get some sun. What are these moms afraid is going to happen? A child is going to see a little side boob and want to eat?

I'm a mom of little girls and I consider myself to be conservative in what I let them see and watch. I try to keep life PG-rated and age-appropriate, but I know that life is life and, as parents we cannot censor everything our kids are exposed to. Our best solution is to raise our children with good moral values and an open mind. We teach by example and there are some things that are just not worth getting all up in arms about, like sunbathing co-eds at the local playground.

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Truth be told: No one can love a child like her mother

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My mother was taken away from her mother after her parents' divorce. My grandfather took the children out of spite to hurt his ex-wife. My mom was raised by a stepmother who treated her badly.

My mom never experienced the devoted and doting love with which a mother loves her children. Instead, she was raised by a bitter stepmother who never wanted her. My grandfather robbed one mother of the opportunity to raise her children and forced another to usurp the burden. No one was happy, least of all the six children.

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Truth be told: Mentally ill mom kills baby because no one listened to her cries for help (VIDEO)

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A 36-year-old mother of nine, Nina Koistinen, is accused of suffocating her baby girl, Maya Hope Koistinen, who was only 6 days old. Nina admitted to pinching the baby's nose, then she twisted and suffocated and smothered baby Maya because she had too many children. Koistinen told investigators that she was jealous of her husband spending too much time with the baby.

"Nina suffers from bipolar, schizophrenia and depression and we have tried for years and years to manage it," said Nina's husband of 15 years and the baby's father, Brad Koistinen.

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Truth be told: Spanking your child is NEVER okay

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East Columbus Magnet Academy called Tekicia Yancie to inform her that her 11-year-old daughter, Jordyn Booth, was bullying someone at school. Tekicia was given the choice of deciding whether her daughter received a three-day suspension or three spanks with a paddle. The punishment was in response to Jordyn drawing a picture of a male classmate wearing long hair in pigtails. She was being a bully.

Tekicia was concerned about her daughter missing the three days of school, so she opted for Jordyn to get the paddling. Sadly, Jordyn ended up missing four days of school to recover from the injuries sustained from the paddling. The mom observed black and blue bruising on her daughter's derriere when a friend suggested she get the police involved before someone accused her of child abuse and she did.

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