Deborah Cruz

I'm Deborah, online I'm  @TruthfulMommy. I'm the creator of The TRUTH about Motherhood. I am a writer, a wife, and a work-at-home Mami who's trying to do it all well. I live in the Midwest with my 2 little girls and my husband. I love them more than I thought was possible and my greatest hope is that I raise them well. I have a lot of degrees from a bunch of schools but mostly spend my days shuttling people under the age of 7, while trying to maintain my sanity. I talk a lot. I may not always say what you want to hear but it will always be my honest viewpoint.

I know I'm Latina when...

my inner monologue is in spanglish.

Deborah's Latest Posts

See the moment a deaf child "talks" for the first time


Imagine never experiencing the sound of music. Imagine never hearing your own name spoken aloud. Imagine never hearing your mother's voice telling you that she loved you. Imagine never hearing your own voice ring out in laughter. Now, imagine never hearing the voice of your own child. What a lonely existence to live in a world that you could not be fully a part of.

15-year-old, Patrick Otema, was born deaf in a country that believes that deafness is a curse. He lives in a remote area of northern Uganda with no access to schools for the deaf. He's never learned sign language and has never had a real conversation with anyone, not even his own father and mother.

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Pregnant mom kills three kids before jumping to her death​


The inquest into the death of a pregnant mother and her 3 children last April has begun in the UK. Fiona Anderson, 23-years-old, drowned her 3 children, put them to bed and then jumped off of a parking garage in Lowestoft and killed herself. Normally, I would be outraged but, instead, I am extremely saddened.

Ms. Anderson was only 23. Her children, Levina, three, Addy, two, and 11-month-old Kyden had each been bathed, drowned and put to bed with their teddy bears. Clearly, she was overwhelmed. She was a single mother with no prospects and no help. Motherhood is hard, even with two parents around.


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Widow finds out she's pregnant the night before her husband's funeral​


What do you do when your fairytale ending is abruptly cut short and you are left to pick up the pieces alone? A happy couple, Royce Kirchner, and his wife, Kristy Kirchner, had been married for seven years and after three years of saving could finally afford to start IVF treatments to complete their family. Five days after their first IVF treatment, Mr. Kirchner was killed in a tragic car accident only two weeks after he canceled his insurance policy leaving his wife a widow.

Kristy found out that she was pregnant the night before his funeral. She announced her pregnancy while eulogizing Royce because she felt it was the last opportunity she would ever have to announce her pregnancy with her husband at her side. It's simultaneously the saddest and sweetest thing ever.

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Pregnant American teen shot in the stomach by Mexican police in border town


A 14-year-old pregnant American girl, Indira Michelle Blanco Lopez Gonzalez was shot in the stomach by Mexican police during a border chase. The girl claims that the officers intentionally shot her in the stomach.

Police opened fire around midnight Sunday near the international bridge leading to Pharr, Texas in the Mexican border town of Reynosa, after the pick-up truck the girl was in failed to obey police commands to stop.

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Mom sells wedding ring to adopt a child after 13 miscarriages


A Fargo mom, Zaundia Klingbeil, has decided to sell her wedding ring in order to adopt a child. She and her husband, Enoch, have an 11-year-old son, Elias, but the couple has suffered thirteen miscarriages in eleven years. Doctors have told the parents to stop getting pregnant. The family is desperate for another child.

A few years ago, Zaundia and Enoch had to watch their twin boys, Ezekiel and Lucas take their last breaths at eighteen weeks. It has been one of the hardest roads any parent has ever had to travel on their journey of parenthood. Yet, the couple remains undeterred in their desire to have another baby. 

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